Tina Abena Oforiwa

Is love really a losing game? Of love and ramblings.

So many of us are striving. Performing. Surviving. We code-switch, we work ten times harder, we carry the weight of ‘Black excellence’ on our backs—often in spaces that were never built with us in mind. But what happens when the cost of success is your well-being, your peace, or your sense of self? In this reflective piece, I write honestly about navigating white-dominated systems as a Black woman, redefining success on my own terms, and choosing wholeness over hustle.

We remember who we were before the algorithms dictated our interactions. We remember what it was like to not give a damn, to just exist.

Capitalism, as an ideological reality, dies in your 30s. It doesn’t just fade or wane—the bitch dies. And not quietly, but with a slow,...